Quiet time and time-out: what are they?Quiet time and time-out are strategies that can help you manage children’s challenging behaviour. Show
They both involve taking children away from activities and not giving them attention for a short period of time. Quiet time and time-out can guide children towards better behaviour. Even young children can understand that when they misbehave, they lose the chance to be around other people and interesting things for a short time. Quiet time and time-out work well when you usually have plenty of warm and loving time with your child. If your child’s behaviour or other things in your life are affecting the time you spend with your child, talk with your GP or a counsellor. Quiet time and time-out: what’s the difference?Quiet time is when you remove your child from the situation, but not the place. For example, if you’re at home, you might ask your child to come and sit near you, away from toys or other children. You can also do quiet time in another room with your child. This gives your child a break from other people or activities. Quiet time works well away from home. For example, if you’re at the park you might sit under a nearby tree with your child for five minutes. This lets your child calm down away from other people. Time-out is when your child goes to a time-out area. It’s somewhere that you and your child have talked about beforehand. It’s usually a safe and boring place without toys or games. For example, it could be a spare room or hallway. How to do quiet time and time-outHere’s how to do quiet time and time-out:
As soon as possible after quiet time or time-out, try to catch your child being good and give your child some positive attention. Quiet time and time-out always work best when you combine them with strategies for encouraging good child behaviour, like giving attention and praise. Making quiet time and time-out work for you: tipsKeep quiet time and time-out short
Keeping it short means your child doesn’t have to wait long before showing you that they can behave well. If time-out or quiet time is too long, your child might forget what it’s about and just feel resentful. Stay calm Focus on family rules Change one behaviour at a time Be consistent If you have a partner, it’s important that you both use quiet time or time-out the same way for the same behaviour. You could also speak to your child’s educators and carers and plan to use quiet time or time-out the same way. Challenging behaviour in quiet time or time-outIf your child argues or yells, remind your child that quiet time or time-out begins when they’re quiet. If your child is having trouble calming down, you could help your child calm down first. Then try again. You can calmly repeat your reason – for example, ‘Remember, we don’t hit each other. If you hit, you’ll have time-out. Are you ready to start now?’ If quiet time or time-out time isn’t working for youHere are some things you can try if time-out and quiet time aren’t helping with your child’s behaviour:
It’s typical for children to behave in challenging ways when they’re ill or going through certain developmental stages, or when there are big changes in your family life. In situations like these, it might be worth waiting to see whether your child’s behaviour changes when the situation changes. If it doesn’t, you could try quiet time or time-out. Either way it’s always a good idea to spend some time talking with your child about their feelings. Time-out for children with special needsTime-out can give autistic children or children with developmental delay a safe space to work on calming themselves. But time-out isn’t recommended for autistic children who:
If this sounds like your child, talk with your child’s GP or therapist about other ways to manage your child’s behaviour. |